More parameters for `AutoEnzyme`

I think it would make sense to add more parameters to `AutoEnzyme`, like: - `deferred = true / false` to use `autodiff_deferred` instead of `autodiff` - `chunksize` to imitate the `AutoForwardDiff` API and allow selecting a chunk size for Jacobians and Hessians @wsmoses @vchuravy what do you think? Related: - https://github.com/JuliaDiff/DifferentiationInterface.jl/issues/819#issuecomment-3070516150